20160706 pathway

Thesis: We have all heard that communication is key. I would like to explore how I in small amounts don’t communicate and in a larger sense stop communicating all together. I will start by detailing communication when I was first married and learning how to communicate with my wife. I will go over some of the trials and arguments that changed the way I communicated. I will talk about times we communicate that breaks down the walls of miscommunication and fixes temporarily the lack thereof. Conclusion: I will conclude with the ideal of communication and the reality of communication as I understand it; which is incomplete, evolving, and is overall incomprehensive. I never saw that first fist coming at me until long after it had landed, and I found myself wondering what had just happened. Stunned, dazed, and confused I stammered back in defense, but didn't realize that I was already in round three of the fight. Fortunately I did not enter this ring very often, or unfortunately perhaps, as I would have been better prepared. A little training and sparring would have helped, but I've always been a slow learner. I've stepped into the ring all too ignorant about my opponent and also of my own abilities. Good fighters can think on their feet, they are sharp and quick, they dodge and weave through their counterparts jabs. It usually started playful enough, shadow boxing and joking around, a playful match of taps on the shoulder and bumps. Somewhere it changed from kid gloves in a regulated match, to brass knuckles in a dark alley. I could never see these transitions coming until it was too late. This sparring match has been a contest of words, and I the unprepared underdog. I don't respond quickly and I am not witty. I would make a horrible addition to a debate team. At yet I have realized over the years that the way I communicate best is through written word. I can take the time to formulate thought, revise and edit my point and make it more clear and understandable. I fall into the pattern of running around not really engaging anyone else around me. It creates enemies simply by the appearance of indifference. It usually started off This is how I view My greatest communicative partner is my wife , Jennifer. She doesn't realize it because I don't communicate well, but she knows more of my heart than anyone. When we were first married and dating, we communicated on hyperdrive. The simple fact that everything was new exuded confidence, and it was above it, for emotion was raw and ungaurded, and it didn't matter. We were open to ourselves and each other with each new step, not caring about the costs that were being spent. We didn't need confidence then. We do not argue much, perhaps because I do not communicate much, although I try. weve destroyed the confidence within us and simultaneously the confidence within the other. Now each step is hesitant unsure with the fear that even the very effort might be flung out and fall upon the ground at the feet of one who was not even looking in our direction. Sometimes we don't confront these difficult issues because if we do we have to fully experience and understand them, which is arduous. It is easier to live in a bit of ignorance. I have changed my thesis a little into communication in general with and emphasis in the beginning on arguments and ending with techniques that work better for me. I still need to flesh this out and do much editing.